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A Spiritual Approach to
Secrets of Raising the 21st Century Child
by Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.
Indigo, Crystal and
We are living in what is known astrologically as the Aquarian age, an age when souls with special gifts are being born to help the evolutions of Earth fulfill their divine destiny. These souls are advanced in wisdom and compassion and have high energy. I believe they are here to help us calibrate our consciousness so that we function in a more attuned way and recognize our inner oneness with God.
A little child shall lead them.
Although many of these souls are highly evolved spiritually, they need loving adults to help them develop their gifts and talents. Parents, families and teachers are meant to guide and support these children so that they will fulfill their mission.
Intuition and Wisdom: The Indigo Children
Have you heard about the "Indigo Children"? They are souls of light, children whose special nature is signified by the deep violet-blue in their aura. The Indigos started arriving in droves in the 1980s and range anywhere from seven to twenty-five years of age today. They are intuitive, active and wise beyond their years.
I believe the Indigos are the precursors of the seventh root race, which spiritual teachers believe is to begin embodying during the age of Aquarius. The Indigos themselves, by their own understanding, are ancient souls who have embodied again to prepare the way for a spiritually enlightened age.
These children may talk about having lived before—or even on a different planet. They are inherently spiritual and humanitarian. They know they are here for a spiritual purpose and can get very frustrated with people unconcerned about fulfilling that purpose. The Indigos are described as having been "born knowing." When they are treated with respect, they flourish. When they are laughed at, ridiculed or disrespected, they withdraw or burst out in anger.
They can be likened to an emotional rollercoaster, going from elated to crestfallen in seconds, many times a day. Because of this they are often seen as difficult by normal standards and are sometimes ostracized by their peers.
Lee Carroll and Jan Tober, in their book The Indigo Children: The New Kids Have Arrived, describe ten of the most common behavioral traits of these wonderful, creative, and at times exasperating children:
We can see that parents and teachers of Indigo Children have a challenge on their hands. And yet, these children are likely to be the next generation's explorers, inventors and entrepreneurs. They are strong willed but not from an ego stance. Rather, they seem to have an inner North Star to which they attune and set their course in life. They challenge adults from their own awareness of truth. And the amazing fact is they are often right in a most profound way.
They come into the world with a feeling of royalty (and often act like it).
They have a feeling of "deserving to be here," and are surprised when others don't share that.
Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents "who they are."
They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).
They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
They get frustrated with systems that are ritual-oriented and don't require creative thought.
They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like "system busters" (nonconforming to any system).
They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.
They will not respond to "guilt" discipline ("Wait till your father gets home and finds out what you did").
They are not shy in letting you know what they need.
These children need to be guided rather than controlled. In fact, trying to control an Indigo child is fruitless in more ways than one. The parent loses patience, the child is discouraged and the moment of truth is lost. On the other hand, when these children are recognized, encouraged and championed for their unique gifts, they can be as bright lights in the family.
Many times the Indigo child relates better to the grandparents than to the parents. In part that is because the grandparents aren't usually involved in the day-to-day interaction and discipline that is necessary in raising any child. The Indigo child also seems to respect the wisdom of the grandparents because that wisdom matches the child's own inner knowing.
When Indigo Children are accepted, loved and guided with a respect for the truths they understand, they become more amenable to discipline. Much of the acting-out of the Indigo child seems to be caused by the frustration of being misunderstood.
When parents respect the child and focus on trying to understand what the child is attempting to express, family life is smoother. These children seem to be born with an acute awareness of subtle energy fields and a hypersensitivity to other people's emotions. They respond intuitively and relate better to adults who treat them as adults. I believe these children to be advanced souls in little bodies.
The Montessori environment, which allows a child to advance at his own speed, is a good place to begin the education of these children. Art and music, both of which speak the language of the soul, are beneficial in the learning process. Perhaps the most important guideline in teaching an Indigo child is to recognize the soul's higher purpose.
Many believe these children are here to take us to another level in our evolution. And those who are raising and guiding them need to have the emotional balance and sense of self-esteem to give these children the support and understanding they need.
I believe that honoring the soul of the Indigo and the child's memories of past lives is a necessary part of educating these children. Some of the Indigos are quite open about their remembrances of other lifetimes. And they may have a better grasp of spirituality than their parents and teachers. Yet their high energy, unless it is channeled appropriately, is a challenge for the child as well as for parents and teachers. The trick is how to direct the energy without dampening the child's spirit.
While many of the Indigo Children seem to be comfortable following their own star, they can become bewildered and depressed when they do not fit in with their peers. They are taken aback when their parents do not understand their past-life recollections. For these children this is simply who they are. Here is a brief glyph from one wise mother of an Indigo child:
Another time, my son told me that he didn't feel his name should be Jesse, that in his last lifetime it had been Thomas! This led me to start reading about reincarnation. Many of the things Jesse shared with me have changed the way I look at life and at God....
From an early age, Jesse could quite often read our thoughts. I feel that he has wisdom way beyond his years-at age five and six, he was trying to solve worldwide problems such as starvation and housing for homeless people. It got to the point where we took him to a child therapist because he was so serious and [we] felt he needed to have more childlike fun. Often he said things like, "Mom, it's okay if we don't have money because we have all the gold in the sun, and that's all we need."
Parenting the Indigo Child
The Indigo Children seem different from previous generations and require careful parenting. They are intuitively aware, emotionally sensitive and intolerant of dishonesty or deceitful behavior.
Many believe that these souls are incarnating at this time to prepare the way for society to advance in spiritual values, integrity and compassion. Most parents of Indigos would agree that their livewire little ones push them to the maximum. They find it absolutely necessary to synchronize with their own higher values in order to relate to their children lovingly and honestly.
These children need to be prepared for their spiritual mission during their formative years. And to do so, parents and teachers are called to guide them by always telling them the truth. We can pray for guidance and speak the truth in a loving way. We can share our feelings with them at the same time that we refrain from shouting or accusing. When we are positive role models to the Indigos, we help them handle their fiery emotions.
To their detriment, some of these gifted children have been diagnosed as ADD (attention deficit disorder) or ADHD (attention deficit, hyperactivity disorder). Doctors may prescribe Ritalin or other medications helpful to ADD or ADHD children but frustrating to the Indigo child. To be medicated to damp down who you really are is not a positive message.
Parents of Indigos soon discover that when they get upset with their children's behavior, they do best to remove themselves from the situation and take a breather to regain their poise. They learn to take calming deep breaths and pray for spiritual intervention from the angels or the ascended masters. Of course, if the child has been indulging in a full-blown tantrum, tearing things up or throwing things around, the parents need to immediately give the child a time-out, and then go about composing themselves.
Some parents envision themselves turning the entire situation over to God. They visualize giving their emotional upset to the angels or their Higher Self for guidance and resolution. Once they feel peaceful, they consider solutions to the problem.
We need to remember that we agreed to bring in these special souls. We met with our spiritual overseers, known as the Lords of Karma, before embodying, and we inwardly understand exactly why we chose to be on Earth during the millennial shift. If we have an Indigo child, we chose to parent that soul. And when we experience our afterlife review in the heaven-world, we will consider the times we were loving and compassionate to our children to be among our greatest victories.
The Entrance of the Crystal Children
Another lifewave of advanced souls coming into embodiment are known as the "Crystal Children." These children, first identified by author Doreen Virtue, are souls of light, often called lightbearers, whose auras radiate an iridescent, multicolored, pastel hue. They are being identified from infancy up to approximately the age of seven, so they have come into embodiment very recently. This is another new generation, and they live up to their name—they are intrigued by crystals and other stones.
These children seem even more advanced than the Indigos and are of a different temperament. The Crystal Children are upbeat, compassionate and forgiving. Idealistic in many ways, they personify the virtues of the Higher Self and point the way for the evolutions of Earth to accelerate spiritually.
Both the Indigo and Crystal Children have qualities that are similar. They both are intuitive, highly sensitive, and have important missions to fulfill. The main difference is their inner nature. I believe Indigos have a "warrior spirit," as Doreen Virtue describes it, because they are here to clear the decks of whatever no longer benefits us. They are here to flag systems in government and society that fail to uphold decency, integrity and honesty. And to do this they need a fiery spirit.
In comparison, the Crystal Children tend to be happy and unruffled. Of course their tempers may flare up from time to time as happens with most children, but as a rule they are compassionate and understanding. The Crystals are the next generation following the Indigos' system busting. Their mission seems to be to raise the consciousness of the earth to a higher vibration. Parents of Crystal Children say their children teach them how to be loving and kind.
Curiously enough, many of these children do not verbalize until age three or four, and therefore their spiritual gifts may be misunderstood. Parents of Crystal Children confirm that they communicate mind to mind, telepathically, with their little ones. The children also use sign language to communicate. The problem is that educational and medical authorities may consider them abnormal or even autistic. It's likely no accident that since the Crystals began coming in, there has been a noticeable increase in the diagnosis of autism, the most severe psychological disorder affecting children.
Yet those who understand Crystal Children and have telepathic capability have no difficulty communicating with them. I do not believe that these children are autistic. The diagnosis of autism includes the criterion of little or no language, either receptive or expressive. The autistic child may be mute, or if speech is present, it is an echo of other people's voices or what he hears on television. In addition, the child behaves as if blind and deaf even though sensory modalities are intact. And autistic children usually do not develop close loving relationships with their parents. In fact, they frequently throw tantrums and exhibit aggressive behavior.
The Crystal Children are quite the reverse. They are loving, concerned, sharing children who are also advanced spiritually. Once they begin talking, they communicate both verbally and telepathically, and they express love, kindness and sensitivity to their families and siblings. Totally unlike an autistic child, a Crystal child will freely embrace others.
In the world of the Crystal Children we will become more aware of our intuitive thoughts and feelings. We will be more compassionate and forgiving toward one another. And our communication will be faster, more direct, and more honest because it will be conducted mentally....
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